"I'm Fat, Ugly & Ambushed"

Hey guys!
And woah look at me being regular and all!

Today I wanted address the issue of Body Image.

Have you ever called a woman ugly? Have you ever called a woman fat?
Do you know what she feels when you call her that?

2 years ago a guy called me fat and boring, It was nearly around the end of 2013 when my birthday was about to come. I was naive and Dumb.
I cried.
Felt that I need to change myself. That no one will like me 'cause im ugy and boring. But now I look back I realise I wasn't anything the guy said I was. In fact come to think of it he didn't even know me.
Us women get affected by what others call us easily.
Especially when we are teenagers. Every single comment passed can be a remark that can make us or break us.

Yes, I know some people are fat, But that is no reason for you to go and bully them. Being a girl with average weight and height. I've heard you're fat alot of time but mostly from my girlfriends who

always say it as a joke. Whenever now someone calls me fat I laugh and whole heartedly agree with them 'cause I know whatever these guys think of me does not actually define me.
Im not actually fat, Im not actually Ugly. Thats your perspective.
Mine is different and It always will be.
To all people who are worried about how they look. About their "figure" And this for teenagers out there.

Right now you dont need to care about that shit. You gotta do what makes you happy and does worrying about what others think of you make you happy? Worrying that people will bully you cause of your weight makes you happy?
All I have to say for them is
Fuck you....

People who you think are ugly are actually beautiful. Yes not by appearance not all the people on the planet can be, But by their personality.
" Never judge a book by its cover "
Ever heard of this? You think it only applies for books huh? It doesn't...
It goes for people too.
You just called that girl fat. But you dont know how it made her feel.
You just judged her by her cover but you never know the content, Her personality, can be really good.
Better than those girls you call "beautiful"
Here's the deal. If you're a girl who gets bullied because of her weight. I want you to do something. No don't worry that people will hate you.
No don't try to loose your weight.
Right now in this stage of your life what matters is your attitude towards life.
If a person bullies you about your weight. Do this.
* Ignoring is hard, so no need to ignore these assholes. FACE THEM*

Boy: You you're too fat to fit in the class. You're gonna need two chairs to sit. *starts laughing*
You: Actually no. But thanks for your suggestion, Im not gonna try it but sure *smirk and walk away*

( Yes I just gave you a roleplay )
Facing these bullies is what you need to do. Yes ignoring may subside it, But it'll never stop.
You have to tell these people that this is not okay. That this....this is bullshit.
Put them in a similar situation, look at how they react.
Ask them how would they feel?

You're gonna need self confidence at this stage. 'Cause that is what will get you through all this Crap.

No dont beat the shit out of them. Make them realise what they are doing is wrong.

And do you know what? If you're in the ages of 10-16 Fuck the weight!
Thats not at all important right now!

If your self esteem is low then these bullies will make you cry.
But nooooo
Have your self esteem, and face them.
Face them with your game face 'cause It's time you fought back...

But here is another sad truth.
Some times you actually are NOT healthy and at those times, You gotta make some serious effort.
But not when you are a teenager who has alot to achieve. Do it at the time when you have accomplished things.
'Cause while you're a teenager these things happen. This is middle school.
But you can't let this make you feel bad or make you cry.
'Cause this, This is something that you will conquer. That you will win.


Body Image doesn't matter when you are a teenager.
Weight does not matter.
Self-Esteem does.
What you think of yourself is more important than anyone else's thoughts.

"Never try to be the second rated version of someone else, But a first rated version of you "

Lets show the world we mean business!!
Lets show them all that this ain't a joke.
We mean it, I mean it.

Lizzie

Its time you fought back. Dont live your life in silence, If you do maybe you'll never speak up.

* Also go check out @littlelizziev
She is one hella of an inspiration.
She is awesome and she is love <3
She is on Instagram so make sure to follow her!
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Grades Don't Measure Intelligence

Hey guys!
Yesterday I posted a blog on Depression & I said that I would talk about MY depression later on, So this is it. Its here....

" Grades Don't Measure Intelligence, And Age Doesn't Define Maturity "

This is a quote I came across back in 2014. This made an effect in my life from that day forward.

My parents , especially my dad, is a person all about grades. I told him about this quote once and all he said was "Toh?" (So?). He ignored it...

This is how my depression started to set in..
The day my sister left for the USA for her college and I was left alone here. The depression started.
Everything bad happening was my fault, Some good things were because of me.

Things I didn't do were my fault. Good things I did were not done by me.

Grades started mattering more.
To me grades have always been just numbers. Taken that these grades help you get into college and classes from 5-8 are the base, the foundation. But just sometimes you have to think that is life only about the grades you get in school?

As the title says, Grades don't define intelligence, and somehow its true.

Im a girl who gets average marks, but yet I feel like I'm more mature than other girls my age.
Some of the most stupid people I've ever met are the people who get good grades, But its like that because all they care is about school ( no offence to anyone )
General awareness is lacking in those people. I have a friend in school who gets real good marks, But she cries if she gets 14.5/15 while on the other hand , me. I get 12/15 or sometimes less ( only in maths ) But I don't think that's a healthy reason to cry about, But that's just my opinion.

I work hard. In Term- I I got 78% while I expected 81% Before that ( in 6 grade ) I got 83% But in the end it got decreased to 79%.
But I don't think what I got in my exams actually defines who I am as a person.

You know those moments when you work your ass off, But in the end you get marks which just scream " You didn't study " Yup that happens. More often than you think.
It happens with me I study like my whole life depends on it but in the end what has to happen, happens, I blame myself for that," I didn't study enough, I wasn't prepared "
But that doesn't change anything. Ultimately this blog is not about this.

I know that what I am talking about has 2 different sides, many different opinions. Well I choose whatever this side might be...

My parents , as Im not good in Maths, mock me ( sorry to say but that's my dad ) He always says " You never study, You'll fail " " Padh liya kar waise bhi itna nahi padhti hain, na hi tere bohut acche marks aate hain" ( Go study, You dont study anyways neither do you get good marks)
Sometimes I cry , Most of the times I have to hide all this in. Go into the bathroom, Cry your lungs out, Scream, Get all your aggression out. Wipe my tears. Come out. Act like nothing has happened.

You can notice Im still not entirely comfortable sharing about my depression as the topic keeps on changing, But at least I'm speaking up.

All these taunts he gives me make me sad, make me feel useless, like a piece of shit.
Like I was a mistake while my sister was the achievement, the best thing that ever happened.
But I know its not like that, Its different, It'll never be like that. But I cant ignore the fact that, that's how I feel most of the time. I have no one to talk to, The time gap between my sister and me serve as a barrier to talk with her properly. Still we do, I've told her about this. She has given me advice, She has helped me but the cold truth is that she is not here with me, and she will not be with me every single moment of my life. Some things I'll have to handle by myself, But things like this is what I've been dealing with since she has gone. I told here recently 'cause It was just too much! Sharing relieved me from all the pain. I felt a huge burden had been taken off from me.

To tell you the truth while writing the whole paragraph there I nearly cried but I had to stop myself from breaking out as my cousin is right beside me.

I go to Maths tuition and I hadn't been going to a few classes cause of the health of my grandma I had to stay at home so she wont be alone. That was for 3 classes or 4 to the max. One day my dad came home early from office and it was time for my tuition, My mother was also home. He asked " Am I going to tuition? " I didnt reply. That silence was enough for him.

He yelled at me, screamed said.... Umm I dont recall it properly but...
" Padhti wadhti hain nahi, Pata nahi bade hoke kya karegi? Bade hoke kaamwaali bai banegi. Tum mujhe batao ki bade hoke tum chahte ho ki tumhare ghar main koi kaam kare ya tum kisi ke ghar main kaam karo? " ( You never study, I dont know what will you become when you are older. When you grow up do you want to become a maid? You tell me Do you want a maid in your house or Do you want to be a maid in someone else's house? )

Yes, I know its something I shouldn't be telling gives the wrong idea of my father, But this is how I am taking it out, This is how I choose to take it out.
My father is an amazing guy ,truth be told, But most of the things......

Yes, Im getting all teary eyed again. I wanna cry. There are too many things stuffed inside me, which I dont show.

" Life is a series of ups and downs "
Right now I think this is whats doing the talking for me..
I have downs every single day but Im trying to live them as another up. Call me crazy but thats how I cope. I suppress.
My remedy is Music, Writing, Laughing....

* I have soo much to say. I don't know if I can right now. This post is already so long. I know there will be another part of this. Im pretty sure of that fact.
I've never felt sadder in my entire life than what I am going through right now.
I feel after writing this I feel ...... Happier?
I have my best friends in my school whom which I meet and It feels like all these problems are just a dream. But then coming back home. The "dream" is back...
This is all for today.*
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**UPDATE**
Now I read this post again and I cant stop to think of my father as the villian in my story.
I dont want that.
I love him, He loves me.
I just gave your reasons for my depression. This post was not to make my father look like the "bad guy". He is a great guy. Its just some things...

Ultimately I'd like to say.
He is just a character in the story & not the villian. I dont hate him.
These were just reasons for my depression.

Escaping Depression & More

Hey Guys!
Its Anonymity Girl here.
Today we'll talk about " Escaping Depression"


Before we start I'd like to put this thing I wrote when I was really sad.

" And then in a flicker of an eye. Taking away all her happiness. She became someone she didn't want to. "

Hope you liked it! :)


Depression is not a casual thing. Its not a joke.
Its a serious mental problem.
People who make fun of people who are depressed don't know that they are only making it worse.
They don't know that this is not a light thing....

I dodged Depression... In fact I am every single day..

I am a very happy, bubbly, funny girl as people say, But none of them have actually seen what I actually am....

I go through a lot every single day. Everyday is a challenge to stay alive and fight the battle even if its me against thousands.

I nearly went into depression, But then I had my friends to make it all better for me.
Friends, They're something worth cherishing.

Sometimes I cry about the smallest of things. Today ,for example, I cried because I pushed one of my friends and of course he didn't react in a good way. I asked if something was wrong 'cause he is always cheery and well he wouldn't have reacted the way he did. He just screamed at me, Yelled at me. That made me feel sad, yet it was nothing to too big. I ran home and lying on the couch I cried, Even though I knew it was a stupid thing to cry about.

This is what depression did to me, If it wasn't had been for my friends I would have been everyday crying every single moment of my life.

I went into Depression because of Family problems, Friend problems...

I was, and still am, having a rough time in my house. Every other day I feel like I am complete BullShit that I am here for no reason, That I was a mistake.... That I am a mistake.

It bothers me very much that I cant be who my parents want me to be, But I've read enough books, enough articles to know you gotta do what you wanna do, cause in the end its your life...
But i just dont seem to get a hang of it.

Due to these problems with my family, my attitude is becoming worse towards them.

But I am still surviving, Cause that's what I know I'll have to do every single moment of my life, even after I grow up and become independent.Life is about making mistakes, But learning from those mistakes is also important..

To all the people going through hard times or thinking that you're depressed

" It'll be over with time, Until then you have to fight, Show the world you are no Loser, you are a fighter. It'll not always be like this, Everything changes with time. You just have to know that no matter what, Never give up 'Cause the day you do, You lose. You are in a fight with life it maybe winning now But you have to make sure that the last round, the most important round, is what you win, What you conquer. If you do that You win "

In the end I would like to finish by saying this:

" With time everything changes, Until then give it all you got and never lose hope "

* If you think this is not actually about depression:
I wrote this post to tell people it gets better, It'll never stay like that. Things change.
This is how I dodged Depression- Through writing, Dancing, Singing.
In the end because of my best friends who are always there to support me at the end of every single day.
& Yes i actually did escape depression, I just thought that I would talk about it in some other blog.
Hope you all understand *
:)

Homo-sexual? Homo-sapiens

Hey guys!

I was on Omegle one day and Ii met this girl my age (13) she said that she might flirt with a me a bit, I asked her why? she replied "Because I'm a lesbian" I said that's freakin' cool! But how'd you know you're a lesbian so soon? she didn't tell me but just said "Its a long story"

Hi, Im a 13 year old and today lets talk about homosexuality.
We all have met Homo-Sexuals once in our lifetime right? and well they are no different than us Homo-Sapiens are they? There is no difference between them and us. Why?
Well lets see here,
We both look the same dont we? Or do they have some special features that define them?
We both dress the same. We both talk the same. Then what's the difference? What's all the hate about?

I will never understand why in this world where "HUMANITY" lives would there be any obligations with the people of the same species, The same origin. You are born from your mother aren't you? well so are they! When you were born and were kept in the nursery you might have never known the kid beside you is gay because there is difference between them and us. The so called difference has been created by us, homo-sapiens, While these people are just like us, we still take away their rights. What did they ever do to us? Nothing!

I know a friend of mine whom i once shows a transgender begging on the streets (Of India) and what she did made me disgust her, "EEEEEWWWW" she shrugged and threw her hands in the air like she just ate something disgusting.

That man was beautiful i can say prettier than me. i asked her why did she do that she said she didnt like seeing them begging i said that you see mostly people begging on the streets of India you never say "Ew" to them then why to him? Her reply was astonishing." I just dont like the clap they do"

The CLAP.

She was a Homo-Phobic on the spot i could tell that she couldnt and didnt respect those people for who they are.. And I didnt respect her for that.


Homo-Sapiens = Homo-Sexuals

We both are the same its just that some choose to love people of their own sex while some don't What's so confusing in that?!?!

We are all Equal.
We all are God's creation.
We all are the same.
We all are loved by someone.
We all always will be loved by anyone and everyone.
We all are heroes in our own way.
We all are amazing, pretty, beautiful in our own way.
We all are Human Beings, In every way.
Then Why the hate?

Love all. Be a unicorn.
Peace & Stay Human.